Turning Romantic Love Into Something Else?
I am married but fell in love with another man about 2 years ago. Our relationship ended after 6 months and we are trying to remain friends. The relationship was purely online, which sounds silly I know but we did talk on the phone a lot and got really close. My husband knows and wasn’t real concerned about it to be honest, we sort of have an understanding that as long as we don’t have sex with someone else then do whatever we want otherwise. Still I truly want to remain friends with this person as I truly do care about him. He did hurt me but I have gotten past that. Still I love him so much it hurts but I want to change that into a close friendship type love and I can’t seem to. Any advice?
Even though your husband knows, dont you think it’s unfair to him to be so caught up in this guy? Maybe it’s time to move on.
It’s next to impossible to turn a romantic relationship, into a “friends only” realtionship. I’m involved in the same thing right now myself, and I can NOT, for the life of me, go back to being “just friends”. We both know it can never be more than that, but I’m struggling with it. She would have NO problem at all with it……I”M the one struggling. I wish you the best in your quest to do it!
I know what you mean. People can write things they would never say aloud, even to a friend. It can be a pure form of communication, but beware of wacko’s on the net.
I would just get it out. Ask him what are you looking to get out
of this friendship. Hurt often makes a friendship stronger.
Good ones survive. Don’t give up unless you feel he has.
i think he has just moved on – do the same